My name is Fitri. I am 19 years old. I am deaf, and so is the rest of my family members. But my dad, my older sister and I are able to speak a little. All of us were born hard of hearing from birth. We communicate using sign language. If I’m on my own, I tend to forget how to sign sometimes. If I’m with my family, it’s easier for me to remember how to sign.
One of the most difficult times I went through growing up was when I was 9 years old. During that time, my mom and dad used to argue a lot because of financial issues. My dad was unemployed at the time, while my mom was a housewife. Both of them were not working. When my dad got a new job in 2009, the root of our arguments was solved because we were able to achieve some financial stability since.
I have been bullied before. Back when I was 7 years old in school in Johor Bahru, there were two people who would always pick on me. They would take their shoes and throw them at me. They also damaged my locker. I would tell them to stop, but they would continue to bully me. This went on for about a year. After that, I discussed with my parents about changing schools.
People in this current school do misunderstand me because they often gossip about me. They would spread rumors about me, saying I did bad things. I don’t understand why they need to talk about me because I never did anything wrong. It’s mostly the girls would gossip about me, lesser guys are involved. To combat it, I decided to just ignore what they are saying.
If I could advise bullies, I would ask them to stop bullying, to stop fighting. If they still don’t want to listen, I would just let it be. Because if I advise once, it’s still fine. But if I have to do it twice or thrice, I feel tired and I don’t think it will get through to them anymore. I didn’t want to report it to the teachers because otherwise all of us will have to deal with the punishment of standing in front of the class. It’s troublesome.
I doodled a lot over my shirts when I’m bored. My hobby is playing table tennis.
Currently my dream is to be able to work as a chef, but I am worried as I don’t have a SPM qualification. I don’t know what I want to be in the future, but at the moment I do enjoy cooking.
I’m not looking to attending college, as I want to immediately start work next year instead. I do not have an exact ambition yet, so it’s still wide open for consideration. I’m thankful that I’m able to receive help from my school, so I don’t face any problems now.
I want to work hard so that I am able to provide for myself instead of relying on others for help. I want to be able to be independent and take care of myself.